Do You Know Your Life’s Deeper Purpose?

Meg Meeker, M.D.

Each of us mothers is created to fill a calling.

First and foremost, we were born to be really good moms. We weren’t born to be mothers who are thin, rich, smart, who drive a lot, buy our kids great clothes, or get them into good colleges. We were born to leave a mark in our world, and usually, that mark is made on our kids and then on others’ lives.

Sometimes we leave our mark because of something we have done for other persons, and other times it happens because we were with that person. We are beings—mother beings. We are human beings but we focus so constantly on the doing of life that we forget how to be.

Our deeper purpose in life flows from a sense that our presence is important to another person. We have something to share with another and sometimes this takes work, and sometimes it means simply being who we are in the company of another.

In addition to fulfilling our purpose as good moms, we are born to do more, in time. At the risk of sounding overly philosophical I would like to assert that we have lost this sense of being because we are afraid of what lies beneath the superficial in us. If we set aside the energy we put into fitness, dieting, trying to be a better mom that the next mom, what is left? we wonder. What we find below the dieting, working, running around in the car and exercising is a deepness that has been undiscovered. The tricky part about discovering our giftedness is that it may be in an area that feels unexpected.

One mother I know does humor therapy workshops for abused women and children. This isn’t her career (she is a nurse-practitioner), and it falls outside of her call as a mom. She has told me repeatedly that she was “born to bring healing through laughter.” She does a great job and women and children come in droves to hear her. The interesting thing about her is that she does not perceive herself as funny. She describes herself as a serious person. When she happened upon her calling to help others laugh, she was substituting for a friend who ran the same workshops.

In telling you this, I’m not trying to get mothers to squeeze one more thing into their day, to jam “solitude” or “living out” a deeper purpose into an already exhausting schedule—it is to help you mothers reprioritize.

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LuAnne: A Lesson for Every Mother

Meg Meeker M.D.

My friend, LuAnne Crane, recently made one of the hardest decisions of her life.

She decided to leave a job she has loved for 30 years and be home with her high school-aged son.

For every mother who has lived the tension of working outside the home and caring for children, you know her angst. She loves her kids and wants to keep them as her first priority. But she loves her job and knows that God has gifted her with a passion for it. LuAnne’s situation is unique, though. She doesn’t have young children at home. As a matter of fact, three have left home and only one high schooler remains. So why leave a job she is called to and stay home? That’s where we mothers need to pay attention.

LuAnne has realized a truth that many of us mothers with older children miss: our teens need us more than our grade-schoolers. LuAnne sees that her son will be facing some of his toughest challenges yet. His friends may want him to do stupid things. So who will help him? LuAnne.

He will need to learn to drive, figure out whether he wants to date, struggle with friends who will drink, smoke weed, and take drugs. College is around the corner, and he will question himself repeatedly about whether he should go, where he should apply, or whether he should work. If he does apply to college, rejection letters will come and he will be shaken. Who will hear him as he works through the answers? His mom.

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